I am married for 16 years and i have been cheating to my husband for more than 10.Whats wrong with me?

And i just can't stop. We don't sleep together. I ask him for divorce but he doesn't want and tells me if i do it he will commit suicide.I am married for 16 years and i have been cheating to my husband for more than 10.Whats wrong with me?
The kind of man who threatens suicide in order to control his wife's actions may not be the kind of man who is a good husband.





However, if my wife had been cheating on me for 10 years that might very well make me suicidal...





I assume you no longer have feelings for him. I see no hope for your marriage. If it continues you will both stay unhappy, if you end it there is a chance you can both be happy one day.





When a partner threatens suicide in this way, that person is basically telling you that they don't or can't care for your feelings. You need to be free and he wants to stop you by any means necessary. That's not love, and even if you left and he immediately threw himself off a building you would still have the right to walk away without guilt. It would not be your fault, it would be his choice.I am married for 16 years and i have been cheating to my husband for more than 10.Whats wrong with me?
DOES HE KNOW YOU HAVE BEEN UNFAITHFUL FOR THE PAST 10 YEARS.OBVIOUSLY YOU DO NOT LOVE HIM.HAVE YOU EXPLAINED TO HIM THAT YOUR NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM AND YOU HAVE FOUND SOMEONE ELSE. (OR A LOT OF SOMEONE ELSES OBVIOUS0LY HE KNOWS THAT AT SOME LEVEL SINCE YOU DON'T SLEEP TOGETHER ANY MORE. BUT HE MIGHT BE IN DENIAL AND NEEDS TO HEAR THE AWFUL TRUTH. HE NEEDS THERAPY. OBVIOUSLY YOU NEED HELP TOO.IF YOU HAVE CHEATED ON YOU HUSBAND FOR 10 YRS YOU ALSO HAVE SERIOUS ISSUES.IT IS NOT NORMAL.YOU ALSO NEED SOME TYPE OF MARRIAGE COUNSELING.NOT TO FIX THE MARRIAGE BUT TO HAVE SOMEONE IN THE ROOM WITH YOU TO KEEP ON TRACK WHILE TALKING. TO PREVENT USELESS ARGUING AND YOU WILL EACH HAVE A CHANCE TO EXPRESS YOURSELVES. MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOUR HUBBY I HOPE HE CAN GET HELP TO BUILD CONFIDENCE AND GET IN TOUCH WITH THE REASONS HE STAYED WITH YOU. HE'S VERY DEPRESSED,BETRAYED AND POSSIBLY MUCH MORE. HE DESERVES SOMEONE WHO TREATS HIM MUCH BETTER THAN YOU HAVE. I WISH BOTH OF YOU LUCK AND HAPPINESS. YOU'LL NEED HELP TO GET THROUGH THIS PHASE IN YOUR LIFE AND FREE YOU BOTH FOR A HAPPY FUTURE.
You don't love him but are trapped! Do you really think he will take his own life if you leave him?...Tell him to see doctor!!


If you haven't done this already then maybe you should sleep in different rooms, stop doing anything for him...no cooking, cleaning etc...he will stop depending on you and you can start to break away from him!!
shame on you for cheating, if you dont want to be with someone u should leave instead of cheating. he needs to get help if he's willing to go to that kind of permanency. he should find someone who really loves him. doesnt sound like a healthy relationship to be in anyway. get him help, make sure he doesnt do anything drastic and then leave and find someone else
He is trapping you...all he is doing is hanging it over your head and that is definitely not what you deserve. Divorce him and be done with it
Thats his problem. leave him why should you feel guilty if you want to move on with your life if you dont love him and he commits suicide then you have no troubles easier divorce...


Tell him time to go..........
Blimey no wonder youve been having affairs. If youre not happy then leave, dont be stopped by emotional blackmail.
you may have slutaritis
You're trapped in a disfunctional marriage. You need to get out of it. What your husband does is on his head, not yours.
Ag,shame. I think you might need some help. Make sure it's a female professional that helps too.