Im 23 n married 3 months back. Im so afraid of sex.Can anyone tell me what can i do to involve myself in sex?

We tried to have sex for 4-5 times. But each time, it hurted me a lott n not able to proceed further. So now whenever we are about to have sex, im becoming so scared and not getting real mood to involve in it. My husband is kind, gentle and told me that he can wait until im comfortable. Please help me.Im 23 n married 3 months back. Im so afraid of sex.Can anyone tell me what can i do to involve myself in sex?
If these few times are the first few, it make take time for you vaginal area to ';get used'; to having sex. If you were a virgin, then you might still have some ';break in'; period. Try taking a hot bath prior to having sex. Try to use some lube....flavored can be fun. Try to relax, take your time and extend foreplay if possible. If your of age, maybe a glass of wine might help to relax you. It will get easier and more enjoyable the more you do it. If you persist in having difficulties, it may a wise idea to talk to your doctor about the discomfort. Hope this helps...Im 23 n married 3 months back. Im so afraid of sex.Can anyone tell me what can i do to involve myself in sex?
The brain receives less pain messages when relaxed, so maybe you could google ';ways to relax before sex'; I've read in a book before where a man gave a girl a bit of whiskey to relax her. Just make try to relax and make sure your comfortable before you try again because the more tense you are the worse it is. Another way is to make sure that there is enough excitement. The wetter you are the easier it will be. Just think about how pleasurable the sex will be after you get through the temporary pain. I know that there are some vaginal exercises that may minimize the pain.








Good luck :)
I have the same problem, sex is painful for me. Usually its just that your muscles are contracted and you need to learn to control them and relax. Seems to be physiological in most cases. Unfortunately for me I am just small and have had the misfortune of falling for guys who are fairly well endowed, so I just have to do my best. Definitely go to the gyno and talk to them about it. They can probably help.
I think that you should 1rst tell him that you are not comfrortable but then try and get in the mood more like flirt alot just relax my first time i felt weard i am 23 also but i wish you luck 2nd. When you flirt alot he'll flirt back with you and touch alot and that will probably get you in the mood all i can say is try loosen up a bit GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
relax and enjoy the moment.
You might need to see a gybo there is all kinds of reasons that you are having troubles