My son is getting married in July. What are my financial responsibilities?

I am making the wedding cake, catering the event for 200.(preparing all the food etc.) My future dil is saying I am to buy all the flowers. Any advice?My son is getting married in July. What are my financial responsibilities?
What everyone has said is true: the son's parents only pay for the rehearsal dinner and sometimes they pitch in for the tuxedos but it's not their obligation to do so. They also pay for the bride's bouquet, which is usually around $200. Those are the ONLY flowers they pay for, however. You are being VERY generous paying for and catering the entire event. That should be enough in and of itself. It sounds to me like this girl's parents either don't have much money %26amp; can't afford it or they are just being cheap and wanting to pawn things off on you. You need to quickly determine which it is. If it's just that they are poor or have fallen on hard times and can't afford to give their daughter the wedding she's always wanted, then I would be tempted to offer to pay for the flowers to help them out....but you should see it as that....helping them...not as your obligation.





I know this will be a sensitive topic so here's what I would do: I would go to Barnes %26amp; Noble in the wedding section and buy a small guidebook to weddings that clearly has a section on who pays for what. Most wedding guidebooks do. Then I would take the book to the DIL and innocently %26amp; sweetly say ';hi - I went to the bookstore and picked up this book because I wasn't sure who was supposed to pay for what in a wedding but then I started looking at the other sections and there is some great information in here! I thought you might appreciate having it in case you want to look up anything. If you don't want it, that's ok but I just thought you might like it.';





That way, you are clearly showing her you know you aren't supposed to pay for the flowers but it comes off as you just being really sweet w/ this nice gesture.My son is getting married in July. What are my financial responsibilities?
You have absolutely NO financial obligations to your son. What you are doing now is plenty and being done out of love. Your future DIL and son need to contribute something to the ceremony instead of just the vows. Trust me, if they work for it they will appreciate it so much more. If they have to pay for the flowers they will get some they can afford; however, if you are forced to pay for the flowers the sky's the limit as far as price is concerned.
If you are paying for the food for 200,making and decorating a wedding cake.What are the in laws (daughter) paying for?? Put the total cost of what it has cost you, and ask what will there contribution be??The cost of the wedding should be traditionaly the girls perents(dowry) If this isnt so, then the costs should be shared. If they refuse . Then give your son the cake and two hundred pounds wedding gift,Stop being taken for a mug!! Im talking from exerience.In just over a year, my son got divorced, leaving me with a large bill that took almost two years to clear.In answer to your question NONE Best Wishes and Good Luck for the future. Big Al
You don't ';have'; to do anything. I think it's really nice that you're offering your catering and baking services, and if that's what you are comfortable doing, then you're fine. If you can't afford to do anything else or don't want to spend more money, there is NOTHING wrong with that. If your son and his future wife can't afford their own wedding, there's no rule that says anyone HAS to pay for anything.
If you are doing all that, it's time to tell her it's her turn. Give her a choice: you do the food or you do the flowers. You are NOT responsible for all that you are doing. How did you get roped into all that? No must not be in your vocabulary.
according to tradition, it is the brides parents who are supposed to pay for the wedding and the grooms parents who are supposed to pay for the honeymoon. but technically, none of it is your ';responsibility';
Rehearsal dinner, incuding food and entertainment.


Your own clothing and attire.


Any travel expenses.


A wedding gift.
Traditionally the bride's parents are TOTALLY responsible for the wedding expenses. The groom's parents are responsible for the rehearsal dinner.
Tell your DIL that her parents are supposed to pay for it ALL! according to tradition.


She sounds very selfish.


NO is a powerful word...........you should use it some time.








Good luck